The simplicity of Happiness
We all ask ourselves now and then; what makes me happy? It seems like an easy question but most of the time its close to impossible to answer or to figure out.
According, to the dictionary happiness is defined as “the state of being happy”! But what does that actually mean? Does it answer anything? Or does it confuse you even more?
We see people around us, and they seem to have it all or at least they seem to be what society calls “happy”. So, that must be true happiness right?! So, why is it not working out for us? What is their secret? Is there any secret? How do they do it? What do they see that we don’t see?
And it got me thinking for a while and I came up with my own theory. It might not be it or perfect but it kind of work well for me so far.
First of, I believe it lies in the approach of the issue. Happiness is as unique as individuals are. What makes one person happy can’t give another person that same feeling of happiness! What enthuses one person doesn’t necessarily enthuse another? Right?! So, I believe the better question might be; what kind of measure should be or could we used to determine what happiness means to us individually! Since there is no perfect recipe, let see if we could use some few tricks to spice up our day-to-day life with a little more happiness.
Now, let me share my imperfect recipe of my life for you all:
First, the number one and most crucial point is, not to be too hard or judgmental towards you or on yourself! Give yourself the benefit of the doubt, which doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t learn from the several occurrences’ life throws at you or your mistakes you have made.
Secondly, this is actually as equally important as the first point. Love yourself! You are good just the way you are. We all have something charming, appealing, attractive and loving about ourselves. And while you love who you are; take a moment and find out who that is, you actually are. Are you really the person your surrounding claims you are? Or are you the person you want to be! If you don’t figure it out on your own, you might get lost in the dominating world we live in. Don’t be invisible to yourself!
Thirdly, laugh! Laugh as much as you can and as often as you can…we seem to forget that life itself is neither easy nor fair and sometimes a struggle on its own! But at the same time it can be a beautiful thing as well. Laughing release endorphin and that is a booster for body and soul. Watch your favorite comedian and laugh. Laugh about yourself…..Laugh!
Fourthly, surround yourself with honest, straightforward, non-dramatic, down-to-earth and true friends. Don’t entertain anyone in your life whose main goal is to bring you down or point out all your mistakes. Nobody needs that in his or her life. The past is for you to learn from, the present is for use the lessons learned and put them into use and the future is for you to hope and have faith all will be all right.
Last but not least, create time in your busy schedule for yourself. Especially when you have a full time job and also need to cater for others. Its doesn’t have to be long hours or every day but make sure at least twice a week you take one and the half hour just to yourself; do yoga, Pilates, meditate, read a book, take a long bubble bath or whatever it is that makes you relax your mind the most. If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of someone else?
Wholly Marie
