The power of forgiveness

As Christians, we learn the meaning as well as the importance of forgiveness! But is it really that easy to forgive? 

Trials that we face in our day-to-day life doesn’t make it easy, isn’t it? But the question here is not how to forgive but why we should do so! Regardless of what your religious beliefs we practice but as human being forgiveness is the power we underestimate! 

As a religious person (in my case Christianity) the scriptures gives us several reason why we should forgive and what that means to for our inner self when we do. But I want us to leave the religious part out of it for just a second and face the following scenario:

You trust someone to the extent that, if even you are asleep and someone wakes you up and asked you a question about a specific friend or persons you think you can answer all questions without even being a hundred percent conscious. Now, let say that specific person does something unreasonable, to your understanding or as well as an uncharacteristic move you’re familiar with from that person…with other words betray you or you get to know from a reliable source what had happened….what would you make out of that information? If I may see myself for out of personal experience; I had that person I thought I could trust (not blindly but trust) and then that person did something for me uncharacteristic. I was in disbelieved and also a little in denial but the story proven to be true and that got me thinking what my next steps shall be.

At this I most say, forgiveness was the last thing on my mind, anger, disappointment was more like it. But then I sat down and thought about it piercingly and came to the point that I had to forgive for myself instead the above mentioned person. And that is where the key lies; forgiveness has eighty percent to do with ones inner peace rather than the person that did you.

When you forgive two things happen, number on; you take control of the happening, meaning you let it go for yourself and the fact that you do not give the person any power over you. They do not control you or make you feel uncomfortable when you see them but rather put a smile on our face just because you know what the thing they know how you are about to react, and when that does not happen the majority of the time they do not know what to think, which in sense kind of gives you the power.

The second thing is, it frees you and allows you to move on as well as focus on issues that are important and is life changing for yourself.

Staying anger does nothing but misdirect your focus, because you can spend hours upon hours to analyze or have a monologue about things, rather find actual solutions for them.

In conclusion, you forgive for you and nobody else but you. Learn out of the happenings, forgive and for the love of it move on! I know it easy said than done but it is possible.….it is not always an eye for an eye….give the benefit of the doubt and let go….empower yourself!

Wholly Marie